Guys, stop trying to fix her

1 Samuel 1:8 Elkanah her husband would say to her, “Hannah, why are you weeping? Why don’t you eat? Why are you downhearted? Don’t I mean more to you than ten sons?”

The scenario is somewhat familiar.  The wife is hurting, frustrated, hopeless, and downhearted.  She can’t take it anymore.  Then the husband comes in and assesses the situation.  “Okay, we’ve got a sad wife here. Time to problem solve.”  He treats her like something broken that needs to be fixed. He tries to get her to stop crying.  He offers her something to eat.  He asks her a question about their relationship.  But he just can’t seem to fix this problem.

Okay, husbands – you all know you have done the same thing.  Your wife presents you with a problem and you move into problem solving mode.  Surely she wants you to fix it.  Unfortunately, you are probably wrong.  What she probably wants is for you to listen.  And what she definitely needs is for you to take her burdens to the Lord.  So guys, stop trying to fix her.  Instead go to the Lord.

You see Hannah had a problem and Elkanah couldn’t fix it.  There is nothing in his power he could do.  He couldn’t think of a solution; he couldn’t come up with an answer.  The only solution to Hannah’s distress was the Lord.  Whether it be her desire to have children or her identity, it could only be found in the Lord.  But we so often try to fix things that only God can do.  We rack our brains and throw out worthless ideas because that’s all we’ve got.  God, however, has all the answers.  Better yet, He has the power to deliver those answers.  So let God be God.  Let Him be the one we run to with our deepest needs the way Hannah did.  If we do, we will surely find all that we need is in Him.

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