1 Thessalonians 3:5-6 For this reason, when I could stand it no longer, I sent to find out about your faith. I was afraid that in some way the tempter might have tempted you and our efforts might have been useless. But Timothy has just now come to us from you and has brought good news about your faith and love. He has told us that you always have pleasant memories of us and that you long to see us, just as we also long to see you.
Paul was paranoid. Paul was pessimistic. Paul was planning for the worst. It seems to me like Paul needed Facebook. He was totally disconnected from these people and that absence caused him to worry. His lack of information made him think that maybe something was wrong, that they had stopped living for Jesus. If only he was able to see their status updates. If only he could have seen their photo album titled, “baptisms.” It seems like being an apostle would be way more convenient these days.
This is what happens with silence. We are left to make assumptions. Sometimes we make good assumptions, but other times we make bad ones. Often, our assumptions leave us feeling like something is going terribly wrong. Maybe we had a conversation with someone that didn’t go too well. Then two weeks goes by and we don’t talk to them again. We begin to think they are mad at us. We think they have talked poorly of us all over town. We might even start to think that our whole lives are going to fall apart. Paranoia, I tell you. And it’s mostly due to silence.
Which is why we need to do a better job of finding out information before making assumptions. If you are wondering if someone is mad at you, call them. If you think that someone isn’t doing well, try to find out the truth. Letting our uninformed thoughts determine our peace is pure craziness! Don’t let that happen to you. Instead, seek the truth. Send a Timothy like Paul did. Shoot, check Facebook. You might find that all of your worry is for nothing.
*Are you worried about something that you don’t have good information about?