Just because

As a kid, I’m sure I asked a lot of questions. I probably also argued with my parents when they told me no. What can I say? It’s what kids do, right? Now when I was asking all these questions, sometimes kids go the ultra annoying route… You know what I’m talking about – they just say “why?” after every answer you give. I probably did that, too. Finally, the parent ends the whole conversation with, “because I said so.”  Let’s be real people, that’s a weak closing argument. But whatever, you are the parent, so you win.

I’m not a huge fan of the “because I said so” argument stopper. What’s even worse, though, is the “just because.” Man, I loathe that one. I worked for a large retailer for 13 years and trained for every position in the store during my time there. Sometimes when I asked questions about why we did things a certain way, “just because” was the answer. C’mon people, we can do better than that! Quite honestly, I think what you mean is, “I don’t know – I just do it be someone told me to.”  Fine. I can respect that. But I like to know the motivation behind process. Because, like, what if there’s a smarter way to get it done?

We do the whole “just because” thing with our spiritual walk too. We do it when raising our kids in the Lord. “Why do we do that?” they ask.  Is it too hard to explain how awesome God is? Or do we tell our kids that we go to church “just because” or “because I said so?” We read our Bibles because we probably should. We do things, well, just because.

The problem is, this is no way to grow spiritually. And it is certainly no way to train a child in the ways of the Lord. In Exodus 13:8, God charged the Israelites with the following instruction. On that day tell your son, ‘I do this because of what the Lord did for me when I came out of Egypt.’

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Oh my goodness… they were actually supposed to tell their children why they are following the Lord. There was an explanation to be given. Shoot, they weren’t even supposed to wait until the kids asked them why. “Just because” wouldn’t be necessary. Instead, they would be sharing with their children the reason for their worship.

If you are a Christian, then you certainly have some becauses to share. In your life, there are things that God has done that make you smile, that give you joy, that overwhelm you with thankfulness for His grace. Here’s a crazy idea: tell your kids about it. Don’t just bottle it up and wait for them to ask. Take some initiative and tell them why you worship God. Tell them why you pray. Tell them why you read your Bible. (You are doing those things, right?)

What would happen if you took the time to say “son, you know why I live for God?” Then tell him. “Daughter, let me tell you why I read my Bible.” “Kids, let me tell you a story of what God did in my life.”  These are things to be shared. And specifically shared with your children. So get to sharing. “Just because” isn’t enough!

*Side note: if you don’t have any children, then I’d encourage you to find some spiritual ones. What does that mean? Lead someone to Christ and then teach them the things of God. Disciple someone. Help them grow. Tell your story to those who need their faith strengthened. This is the way of the Lord. You don’t follow the Lord and go to church “just because.” There’s a reason. And you need to start talking about it.

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